Personal Development

Stop Letting Other’s Opinions Squash Your Dreams

I think one of the downfalls about being a woman is that we tend to worry about what others think of us , or their expectations of us. Without looking inside and living what we need to do to make our life the best that suits us.

Making our dreams and goals actually happen, instead of wishing “ Someday I would like to ____”. Or too afraid to even try!

So how do you do that? How do you start, when you’ve done this most of your life. It’s time for change my friend.

I listened to a podcast by @Rachel Hollis Called Rise , as well as her book “GIRL WASH YOUR FACE”  and it really hit home to me because yes unfortunately I was one of those people , so with what she said “ someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business” ,  That really opened my eyes and I hope

it does for you too.
You create what you need to create because you have the gift to create it.
You can’t make people like or understand it , you have to understand that their opinions will only matter if you let it.

If your going to work on your dreams and what you want to achieve , you’ll have to make a decision on what you want most of making it happen or worrying about what others think! I hope this post will encourage you to get out of thought and use your energy to create and achieve , rather than your energy on the negative and slowly kill your dreams.

Choose you! Choose your dreams and not let anyone make your decisions for you!

Summer Nights

My favourite time of day is the end of the day when I can reflect and see what I accomplished and didn’t accomplish and what I’m going to do tomorrow to improve and grow from today!
One of those ways is with learning and reading my personal development , I know what your thinking but honestly before 2 years ago if you had asked me to read a personal development book 📚, I would have told you to stuff it in your ear 👂
Now what I am making time to read and grow instead of binge watching Netflix or mindlessly scrolling. Don’t get me wrong , I like the odd show , and trust me NETFLIX will still be there when I am successful and am able to have more time , thanks to my hard work today! This isn’t hard work , it’s training yourself to be disciplined and work on your life not someone else’s. making dreams come true only happens when you out in the effort , you get in life what you put in right?
So “WHY NOT YOU?” My husband has the mindset of a worker BEE 🐝
Not that it’s a bad thing , but to him it’s get up , go to work , do what you have to do then go home 🏡
My mindset is way different , I want more in my life , I want to not worry about bills , or debt or retirement. I want to work on my dreams and be happy , my heart is full of passion and energy to help others succeed as well , whether it be their health or their success 💰💵 So sorry Netflix, Cable Tv and Romance Novels , this lady has bigger dreams to chase and make happen , if you feel the same way I do, you can message me or click on my bio I’d love to work with you to make your dreams happen!! Remember your NEVER TOO LATE & YOUR NEVER TOO OLD , you just have to START

Monday Motivation

Monday’s can be a Day you dread or a day you wake up and ready to crush your goals.  I used to be one of those that would literally dread. I would get so upset and anxious Sunday Night to the point that I would end up with a Migraine or sick to my stomach.  I hated Monday’s, I hated how I felt, I hated all the drama and negativity that I would have to face when I went to work.   How bad is that?

No one should ever have to go through that,  I find we get so many things stuck in our heads that we stand in our way.  We start to doubt ourself, we talk negatively to ourselves.  A lot of self doubt , fears step in.

We are far too smart for that.  I have talked to many women who are frustrated and tired of working their butts off but not achieving their goals.  They tell me how they hate their job, they’re stuck. So I ask them what is your goal? What is the one thing you want to do in your life?  Far too often they say “they don’t know”  They’ve never thought about it.  They are so busy looking after everyone else , kids, husband, significant other that they’ve never taken the time to really think about themselves and what they want in life.

I used to be like that, I never knew what I wanted with my life, I was too worried about how everyone thought of me, and make sure everyone was happy.  Which then caused depression, anxiety, obesity .  So how do we change our mindset, how do we get all the traffic in our head to start focusing on making our life the best it can be?

It starts with believing in yourself.  Building your self confidence, and changing your mindset. Sounds hard I know but I did TWO things that have changed my life for the better.  I can honestly say “I LOVE MYSELF” and mean it.  I know that I will do my best to make sure that my life is the best I can make it, so when I get to the end of the road I will look back and say ” DAM What a great life I had.”

The first thing I do is :

I write in my 5 minute journal.  Which is a great book, it helps me set my day and focus on what I need to do to make my day great. 

Secondly I listen to Personal Development.  I know your thinking my goodness I don’t have time for that or your thinking “BORING”  But I want you to think of someone who made a a difference in her life that if she wanted to her life would have been way different then where she is now.  She could have lived the same life as her Mom and you would Never have known who she is.  I’m talking about Oprah Winfrey.  She is successful, she is powerful, she is Smart.  She is smart because she knew she wanted to different lifestyle than what she was given as a child. The way she got out of that was by reading and learning.  Do you know how many Books She reads?  She reads at least one hour a day , she has a quote that says how she got to her success“Books were my pass to personal freedom.”  

 

So if your wanting a change and make your life the best it can be, then I encourage to change your habit and start a good habit. A little bit each day will make a huge impact later.  Take that one habit and work on it everyday. Write in a journal, make affirmations, or read 10 minutes everyday that will help you grow.  Sorry Harlequin, but we need to read books to inspire us, give us the knowledge to grow, NOT escape.   If you really want to be successful and change your path you won’t want to escape, or hide you will embrace your life!!  Let’s do this. Take the challenge and try one habit for 30 days and let me know how you made out!!  I bet you’ll see a difference !!

Monday Motivation

The problem with New Year’s Resolutions is that no one really makes New Year’s Resolutions.

We all make January Resolutions, massives of hope and protein shakes and exercise and when the year feels new and pristine.

By July, those goals feel a million miles away, cooked out of our memory by the hot summer days and long humid nights.

But what if this could be the better half of the year?

That’s a question that’s bothered me for the last few weeks. For all the workouts I’ve done, and coaching about chasing goals, My goals of Reading a book a week I’ve never had that thought before. I’ve never thought about the back end of the year that way.

Runners talk about this concept. It’s called a “negative split,” and means that you ran the second half of your race faster than the first half. It means that despite being tired, despite being hot, you actually picked up your pace.

What if that’s how the year worked, too?

What if the second half, was the best half?

We’ve both got six months left in 2018.

Six, glorious, wide open months just waiting for a goal. (Starting today, it’s 183 days until the end of the year or 30 days until they start selling Christmas products at the mall.)

I wrote down 39 different goals in the last month. Some are events like, Going to a Super Saturday , or “Write a to do list every day.” Will I complete all of them? I won’t. Will I finish more this second half than I ever have before? I will.

I think you should think about the second half too.

To get you started, here are 10 of the goals I’m working on:

1. Write my affirmations everyday
2. Set up my productivity everyday to be more organized
3. Stick to my nutrition plan and lose 20 pounds
4. Get my running back on track
5. Encourage 184 people.
6. Date nights every Tuesday
7. Grow my Instagram to 10,000 people.
8. Blog once a week.
9. Launch a Coaching Sneak Peek Webinar
10. Build my business to a 2 star Diamond

Those goals are all over the place, but so is life. It’s always messy and chaotic in all the best ways.

3. Stick to my nutrition plan ss on those goals, too. I’ve been writing my affirmations, and setting my timer for my productivity, I’ve been setting up date night with Hubby. If you ‘d like you can follow me on Instagram~cupcakes_to_kale. That would be awesome!

Here’s to a better second half.

Here’s to finishing the year in the best way you ever have.

My Hiatus

I cannot say how crazy this year has been already, I can only apologize for not posting like I normally do. I haven’t forgotten about you, honestly it’s been a bit overwhelming and I have been close to having a mini breakdown.  With flying home for Christmas and having major mixed emotions there, then flying back and the biggest let down I have had was with myself. I have let my emotions dictate my eating. So instead of going forward I have actually gone back.  Feeling embarrassed and ashamed, I had a hard time posting because I felt like a hypocrite.

I’m an Emerald Beachbody Coach and with that I have some Challengers and Coaches that look up to me for guidance and support.  So I was beating myself up trying to focus on how I can do that for them when I’m doing everything the opposite? I discovered something about myself, within this last week.  My Company is launching a New program called 80 day obsession.  Every Monday they send out a podcast of what news is happening and some inspirational speaker, to help us and give us tips of how to be an awesome coach for both personally and professionally.  There was one speaker that really got to me, let’s just say he got my inner self fired up!  Then I went to a Conference last Sunday and let me tell you, that in itself really got me fired up. I realized that I am who I am. I have good days and Bad days, I need to focus on why I was overeating and what can I change so I won’t keep going to that habit again?!  I also let my workouts slack a little, why do I do that? It’s the one thing that helps the stress and pressure and makes me happy and feel good!

I have been asking people/friends what goals they have been making for the New year?  it’s funny how many different responses I’ve been getting, but what I realized is I need to focus on my goals too. SO I got back to the basics, I made a vision board, I cleaned out my craft room/ office/ gym.  Organized it a bit( still have stuff to do) then I sat down and made a list of what I am going to work on to help me be a better me, better coach and this is what I came up with.

  1. TIME MANAGEMENT – a biggy for me. I have always been a fly by the seat of my pants.  What I post is what I’m feeling right now. So I need to schedule and be productive.  I have already made a biggy, I have discovered how to actually use my smart phone as a better tool. Check this out!!
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  3. MY HEALTH- I started this journey 4 years ago, I remember the fire I had and the drive to get to where I was. So I’m focusing on just that, and thank goodness 80 day obsession has come when it did.  I will be definitely giving it my all. I put on my winter coat (it was tight) I put on my fatty pants ( they were too tight) I didn’t need to go on a scale for me to find the truth. But I did this morning I am up to 163 lbs. The heaviest I’ve been since 2 years ago.  That’s why I’ve already begun the nutrition plan and the challenge hasn’t even started yet and I’m already feeling a huge shift in both my mind and body!!
  4. PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT- I think one of my achilles heel is that I am always worried about what people think of me and sometimes it dictates how my day will be. So my goal is to focus on healing my mind, with meditation and destress and best of all NOT Care what others think of me. I am my own person.  I have a  lot to give and I have a lot to share and I know that I will do whatever it takes to help people that are looking for goals  they want to reach but are not sure how to do it.  My daughter told me about a challenge that she is doing and it’s read a book a week. One of the biggest things that Beachbody emphasizes is Personal Development. SO I am stepping up mine and I’m going to be reading a lot more build up my confidence and my leadership!

This Blog was a big step forward for me as a coach and a person, and I let it go to the wayside. I am now more determined than ever to give it my all. I love to share what I have accomplished and if it helps anyone do the same, then I have achieved the biggest goal yet!!  So don’t give up on me, I am going to be a stronger, healthier, funnier and most important reliable Friend/ coach / Blogger. Stay tuned!!

Scary Leap

If there’s one thing I’ve learned in this short 4 years of my weightless journey is this I’m a visual person, I need to see my goals, motivation, my inspiration and I do that by One – my vision board which I have to help me stay focused with my “WHY” and so I don’t lose focus on what my goals are. Second is that I have a tattoo, that also gives me that inspiration that I need when I feel defeated or I want to give up. It says “Courage” underneath my  Uncle’s favourite character of all time Snoopy! If there is anyone who I know would be behind me reaching my goals and finding what I need to do with my life would have been my Uncle Harry. He has always supported me emotionally through anything No Matter What. So I know if he was alive today he would definitely be in my corner.

I also wear shirts that have a certain saying so if I’m ( Once again) feeling defeated or that I should quit I have those to let me know that I’m doing exactly what I’m supposed to do! My Audio books as well help me expand and grow and have helped me so much already! The one book I am reading a second time had me do something today and the other day that I would have never done in a million years. But in the book ” Your A Badass, At Making Money” she talked about how in order to set goals and get yourself actually doing it instead of procrastinating, you need to go buy something that is something you would never buy before , something you’ve wanted but it’s out of your price range enough to scare you, maybe even terrify you  a little. Well that was me this week. I did two purchases that scared the crap out of me. Now your probably asking why? right? Well the first item I have wanted for a long time. And I had full intentions of buying it, but it was one of those items that wasn’t a NEED it was a want. It was the New Apple watch, series 3 with gps.  I had a series 1 and honestly there was nothing wrong with it, but the newest watch has a built in GPS which is awesome for my running. So I took the plunge and made the purchase.  Thinking I was done with my splurges, my sister in law mentioned these boots that she bought which aren’t cheap but they last a lifetime. and are so well built and comfortable. With working Nights at Walmart for now I have not had a descent boot that has not made my feet so sore by the end of the 8 hours. Not to mention the fact that I’m on my feet a lot. So when I bought a pair for my daughter for Christmas I really liked the look the feel and I couldn’t stop thinking about them. I kept looking at them online and then I found they had a pair of RED ones. I was knowing they were calling my name for sure.  So this morning I went out to buy a winter pair of Moccasins and there they were staring at me in the face.

I was letting my sub conscious talking me out of them, but then I remembered what my book said, that sometimes you need to do this to push me into not being lazy about my coaching and pushing forward, these would give me the drive I need. Now what’s funny is that there were all kinds of people buying this very boot, and the younger ones probably don’t have the same effect about buying them as myself. But I’ve NEVER spent that kind of money on myself EVER ! So to do this was giving my heart a race and my mind was thinking of every excuse known to man, a couple of times I actually almost put the boot back. But I knew I would regret it, later. As well I was getting sweaty, my breathing was going faster. But when It was my turn to go to the cashier I still had the boot in my hand. I knew it was something I wanted to do , correction “Had to do” I paid for them and I’m wearing them. I did hesitate when I was about to take off the tag but I did it. Now every time I look at them I know I can’t procrastinate I have to dig in lol and do the work, grow my business to justify this cost.

I will do anything I have to grow this business and make my life what I know it’s capable of. I have a passion and theres No stopping me! I know that working at Walmart is only Temporary and I have to focus on my big Goal, and I only have 18 months to do it, so this little purchase (which wasn’t little to me) will help me do that. Such pressure for a little boot lol. Do you have a special item you would love to have but are too afraid to purchase? I’d love to hear if I’m the only one that feels the way I did when I bought them.