Family Won’t Eat Kale



I have been asked this question a lot since my weight loss journey.  For example: How do you stay committed? Does your family eat what you do? Well, I have an answer to both of those questions.  But the first thing I have learned in my journey, which has been a tough one is this: You can only control yourself! You can’t make others do what you do, they have to want to change, otherwise, it will make your relationship whether it’s your spouse, mother, father, sibling go bad real fast.  It’s a tough one, trust me I know, when you start your healthy lifestyle you start to feel more energized and feel great! All you want to do is shout it out to the world saying” You have to do this, you won’t believe how amazing you feel!”  That’s how I was in the beginning. Well, lets face it, that’s how I feel every day! I am thankful for everything and blessed as well.  I think that’s why I love to share my experiences and coaching because when you start that transition it can be scary. It’s not comfortable, in fact, it can be really hard. Especially when your cooking for your family and they don’t understand or want to join you. In fact, my husband is downstairs right now eating a bag of BBQ peanuts while I’m typing this out. Which is exactly why I started this Blog, to let others know that even if you feel alone in this battle for a healthier lifestyle your not.  I hope my tips will help with your journey.  Just remember, I know this is a tough one, but, remember that you have to look after yourself first. If you don’t then you won’t be around to be with the ones that need you. It’s hard to think that way because as a mother, wife, daughter we are taught to look after our family first.  Which can be very challenging to get our heads around. But when your family sees that this isn’t a fad or phase your going through and that you really are in it for the long haul, they will start to see how happy you are, how energetic you are. They will be happy for you, but they aren’t ready and they might never be ready but that is their choice. You can’t change them, just like you can’t change them for leaving their clothes on the floor even when the laundry basket is only a few feet away. They have to want to change.  When they do, you will only be too willing to help them.  But until then you have to do what you can to make sure you stay on the path and keep pushing forward.

My husband is truly like a kid, the more I try to tell him about eating healthy and exercise the more he’s defiant. And goes the opposite direction. So what I do is I make a lot of meals that I know he’ll eat as healthy as I can. He has started liking Spaghetti squash, and quinoa. But when he’s on the road, I have no control as to what he puts in his mouth. Yes, it terrifies me, because he is a diabetic. I can see his insulin amounts going up and up.  I have told him, how much I want to be holding his hand when we’re in our 80’s but I know the way he’s going it’s not going to happen. I have to be ok with that. That’s where I have to know that I can do the best I can ( like buy a recumbent bike instead of a treadmill ) so he will use it he says. Cook as healthy as I can for my family without protest. Hopefully one of these days he will come around to my thinking, but until then I have to stay on track for myself.  In my video I explain the tips that I do so I can stay on track and everyone is happy.  Enjoy and remember it’s not being selfish if you look after yourself first. In fact it’s the opposite.  You are strong enough. You are capable of doing anything! Just DON’T QUIT!



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